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The most wonderful time of the year?

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The struggle some days is so real.This day in particular has taken a lot out of me.

As the holidays are creeping up closer and closer I am just emotionally exhausted.

Coming from someone who use to adore the holidays this fact is completely heart breaking.

With everything that has happened lately there is no doubt that there was a wrench put in the way in a lot of relationships in my life.

It is going to take more time to heal. Some may not even completely heal up. I sure hope I am wrong on those.

Here are some things to keep in mine if you’re struggling through the holidays.

(This is taking everything in me because all I want to do is sit in the corner and pout. My 5 year old may think I’m a freak if I do that…so here we go..)

•Remember first off that some people may not even get to see the holidays this year. Some may even be fighting for their life. You’re healthy, you’re breathing, you’re alive. Breath in some fresh air and keep your head up.

 

•Don’t look past the pain that is creeping up into your life during these times. Instead, take it and be grateful for where you are in life. Even though you have pain now…look at the positives in your life. Come on, I know they are there. There is good just waiting to be pointed out.

•Hold those who you do have close to you. Maybe you’re struggling because this is the first year you’re without a loved one. Maybe you’ve just gone through a divorce, maybe you even are like me and you’ve had relationships change and become awkward and lost some people dear to you.

 

•Don’t forget what these holidays are truly about. They aren’t all about relationships, food, gifts, or rushing around to different peoples houses, or parties or gatherings. No, they have much more meaning behind them than that. Remember those meanings.

 

•Some people will be spending the holidays completely alone. Some will be spending them on cold streets. Some will be hungry and sad. Some people will be in horrible situations that they can’t get out of. Some will be suffering from illness. Keep in mind that if you have a roof over your head and food before you that your life and holidays really aren’t that bad. Keep that in mind.

 

Look, I get it. I’m truly writing this post because I needed some form of positivity forced upon myself.
I don’t want to celebrate thanksgiving or Christmas this year. In fact, I have probably the crappiest attitude about he holidays this year.
Mentally I’m not prepared for the changes that are set before me. I know they are consequences of my actions. That doesn’t mean I have to like it or want it. Because, I don’t. And I’m not afraid to shout exactly how I’m feeling from the rooftop. Because, I will.

I will say that I am bitter, mad, angry, sad, depressed, down, and anything but happy or excited about the holidays that are coming.

But! I know I must do something to change this attitude. I must. I will only kill myself on the inside if I don’t change my perspective.
Perspective is everything. Positivity is completely the key.

On those days where you’re anything but positive, hold on. It’s going to be okay. This too shall pass and your life will go on as before.
You could be laying in a hospital bed dying. You’re not? Well, maybe you should be grateful for that. I know I am.

So, turn that frown upside down! Get some fresh air and enjoy life. Hold on tight because those holidays are coming if we like it or not! Might as well make the best… I right? Yes, I am.

And here is to baking some dang cookies! Because I am going to this year!

Thanks for reading,
Lex

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    1. Cynthia I agree! I believe changes can be refreshing at times. This is going to be a very tough year for me through the holidays. We just have to keep our heads up right!!? 🙂

    1. I am definitely a bah humbug this year! I’m trying to be positive for my own brains sake. It isn’t working all too well 😉 but hey! I’m trying! That counts for something right?!

  1. I’m sorry you are feeling “bah humbug” about the holidays this year. But I’m glad to see you’re trying to focus on the meaning behind the holidays and redefining and reconnecting with what they mean to you. It’s so easy to get caught up in the social pressures of the holiday and lose focus of what’s really important.

  2. My advice is do something that is NOT the norm. Whatever traditions or things you used to do that evokes these memories for you need to be replaced with NEW ones so figure out HOW you can do that & give it a try! Good luck & hope things get better for you! =)

  3. I am sorry that you are having a hard time. Thank you for sharing that the holidays are not always “merry”. I am so glad that you are looking for and sharing ways to help yourself and others find the best in their lives.

  4. I’m sorry that you aren’t looking forward to the holidays. A few years ago I was in the same place and I had to fight just to take part in the activities that I was expected to be at. Good luck on finding your happy. 🙂

  5. i obviously dont know what is going on with you personally, but i respect you for realizing you need to find the positive. I do hope that you can find your happy again. It’s important for anyone to remember what the holidays are all about, family and love and giving thanks.

    1. Thanks so much! It is a process in finding the positive. It’s hard at times. But anything worth having in life doesn’t always come easy. Thanks for the comment<3

  6. I appreciate your honesty, and I know you’re not the only one who feels that way. There were years in the past where if I could have just gone to sleep a few days before Thanksgiving and then woken up on January 2nd, I probably would have done it. My kids have always been the source and drive for me to see the more cheerful side of things when I felt that way. I always did my best to have the happiest holidays possible – for them.

    The best part is, at some point in each of those times, I realized that I wasn’t faking it anymore. Seeing the joy they felt, it became my joy, and I actually found myself being truly happy. I hope you find your happiness this year, Lexie. <3

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your story<3 it helps to see others who struggled at one point also and got through it! I have faith that my happy is coming! Until then I will do my best to stay as positive as possible 🙂 don't get me wrong. I'm an extremely happy person! I'm just still finding myself<3

  7. Very recently, I have been thinking of all the people who are dealing with so much more in their lives than various personal issues in my life, burnt pies, the dread of having to cook a large meal. It’s important to stop and count your blessings…and know that it can always be better just as much as it can always be worse.

  8. Wow this post really hit home. I’ve been feeling exactly the same way about the holidays this year, I’m just trying by best to stay positive and put on a brave face for my little boy. Just because I might be going through something, doesn’t mean the holiday spirit should be dead for him. It’s not right and he doesn’t deserve it. Thank you for sharing! Not that I wish bad feelings on anyone so don’t take this the wrong way, but it’s kind of nice to know someone else out there is experiencing similar things you are and can relate and share how they get through it.

    1. That’s exactly how I am! I’m doing my best to be as happy as possible for my daughter! She deserves it! And I want her to feel happy and peaceful through the holidays! Oh girl, I’m so glad you can relate to it! It’s nice to know we aren’t alone. It really is. I know you’re not wishing bad feelings! <3

  9. Its like you read my mind! You appear to know a lot about this, like you wrote the book in it or something. I think that you could do with some pics to drive the message home a bit, but other than that, this is excellent blog. An excellent read. I will certainly be back.|

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